In The Name of Allah Most Gracious Most Merciful
Assalamualaikum WRT WBT,
Yes dearest friends..i am now married and am expecting a baby Insya Allah in August..
It seemed like just yesterday i was in my single days, planning my wedding, having the jitters and sooo not looking fwd to being a wife. Why shouldnt i be?
Well...for a start, we barely knew each other before marriage...I could practically count with my fingers the number of times we talked --- tt was mainly because we either needed to discuss REALLY IMPORTANT things or we wanted to clear any misunderstandings we might have about what was discussed previously..most of the time..a third person would be present..i would say..relationship before marriage was almost non existent..
I remember days before the wedding..i was still wondering who's this person i was gonna marry..aside from his appearence..i felt tt i soo dont know soo much about him. I used to tell my friends that i was probably more or less like the JAPANESE PILOTS during the world war.."KAMIKAZE"..
Thanks to my wonderful friends - they were always telling me that things would work out, being by my side throughout the whole engagement period..until the big day..and the result MASYA ALLAH
ALHAMDULILLAH
Well guys..what can i say..i mean when we have faith in Allah everything will work out well..insya Allah.
I now truly believe that when u start something well..all will end well..
Things at first werent so easy..i mean, we wanted to try our best to abide by what was recommended by Islam..we tried our best to eliminate as much traditions as we could..u could imagine how our parents reacted at first..
To our surprise..though we thought lightning would strike during the wedding..in the end everything turned out better than planned..cant deny tt there few hiccups here and there..still we couldnt have asked for more.
Unfortunately didnt have much time to spend with family and friends in Malaysia..Anuar only had like 10 days of holiday..nevertheless we tried to make the best out of the time we had..Alhamdulillah....
LIFE AFTER MARRIAGE...:)
:) :) :)..all smiles, all smiles..
Eversince i got married all i want to do is smile..i completely forgotten when was the last time i felt sad..or cried (dont know whether tts good or bad)...
Anyways...i could basically sum up our story as "LOVE AFTER MARRIAGE"..so far after two months and a week after the wedding..life has been sweet & wonderful. When everything is HALAL..and having no restrictions with the relationship..the getting to know each other phase has been loads of fun....sharing stories, comparing notes about the engagement period..(how stupid i was thinking the things i thought about hehehe)..and the best part is...building a new life together..
Having the same aspirations and sharing more or less the same goals..have made things a lot easier....i have to say the best part about my marriage so far is having someone like Anuar..bringing out the best in me..and making me want to be the best for Allah..its true what Ummi once told me....Love Allah..above all else..and soon Allah will show u with HIS love through people around u..
Sorry dear but have to reveal this ;)
Anuar i must say..is charming, sweet, committed and honest. Its no wonder why his family love him soo much..i agree with Azza now,,when she once told me when i asked about her brother.."Anuar is the best son, best brother, best grandson, best friend, best neighbour etc etc etc"..yup Azza u r right..He somehow managed to charm my parents..which i could easily say is almost impossible ;)...everyone has their weaknesses..no doubt abt it..I do hope tt Anuar will be better than what we all think of him..insya Allah.
In addition to that I do hope that in return i could be the best wife for him..insya Allah.
Maksud Hadis Rasulullah S.A.W.
"Kebahagiaan bagi anak Adam ada tiga. Dan kesengsaraan terhadap anak Adam ada tiga. Maka di antara yang membahagiakan adalah isteri yang soleh, kenderaan yang baik serta rumah yang lapang. Dan kesengsaraan bagi anak Adam ada tiga iaitu tempat yang tidak baik dan isteri yang tidak baik serta kenderaan yang tidak baik."
From the book "Al Mukminah As Solehah" (sorry dont have time to translate).
Isteri yang soleh itu sentiasa berjuang bersama-sama suami menyebarkan fikrah Islamiyyah, khususnya kepada kaum sejenisnya. Mendidik dan membimbing mereka sehingga lahir kefahaman dan kesedaran Islam. Sehingga mereka pula mampu untuk menjadi pejuang-pejuang akidah yang bersedia menumpukan taat setia kepada Islam dan pergerakannya. Keletihan suami setelah melaksanakan tugas harian dan berdakwah disambut dengan wajah yang berseri dengan ucapan kata-kata yang dapat memberi kekuatan jiwa untuk lebih istiqamah, ketika menghadapi masyarakat jahiliyah tanpa mempunyai perasaan bosan dan jemu. Mengizinkan dan merasa bahagia melihat suami menjalankan tugas Islam tidak kira masa dan waktu. Bersedia memberikan rumahnya, hartanya dan masanya untuk tugas yang murni ini dengan hati yang penuh redha. Isteri yang soleh juga sentiasa melaksanakan tugas-tugas yang diamanahkan kepadanya dengan sebaik-baiknya dan bersedia untuk menghadapi segala ujian-ujian dari Allah SWT.
Pesanan Imam Al-Ghazali kepada anak perempuannya di hari perkahwinannya
Anakku!
Engkau sekarang akan berpindah dari rumah tempat engkau dibesarkan
Dan akan berada di tempat tidur yang tidak engkau kenal,
Dan rakan hidup yang engkau tidak biasa dengannya.
Itulah suamimu;
Jadilah engkau sebagai tanah untuknya dan ia akan menjadi sebagai langitmu.
Jadilah engkau sebagai lantai untuknya dan ia dapat kau jadikan tiangmu.
Jadikanlah dirimu ibarat seorang khadam kepadanya, nescaya dia
pula akan menjadi khadam kepadamu.
Jangan engkau memaksa-maksa apabila engkau meminta sesuatu daripadanya...
Dengan cara yang demikian akan menjadi ia merasa benci padamu.
Jangan pula engkau menjauhkan diri nescaya ia akan melupakan engkau.
Dan kalau ia pula menjauhkan diri secara marah kerana sesuatu sebab yang tertentu, maka yang eloknya jauhkanlah dirimu daripadanya semasa marah.
Peliharalah hidung, telinga dan matanya Janganlah membiarkan dia menghidu sesuatu daripada mu melainkan yang harum,
Janganlah membiarkan dia mendengar sesuatu daripadamu melainkan yang baik,
Dan janganlah membiarkan dia melihat sesuatu daripada mu melainkan yang cantik, belaka.
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Ummi to Be
Yes...what u r reading is true..me SHARIFAH SARAH is gonna be an ummi..couldnt believe it myself..BUT its true..i am now in the 10th week of my pregnancy..and finally the morning sickness is phasing out...
The first nine weeks was a total nightmare!!! Nausea, vommitting, dizziness, feeling faint..GAS!! u name it i have it..i was mostly bed ridden the past nine weeks..and finally today i am feeling a LOT better and looking fwd to the things to come..i wanna share with u guys the picture of my first ultrasound (refer below)..i saw the baby's heartbeat and all..Anuar managed to run out for awhile..for our very first scan..:) could see his face glowing..:)
Alhamdulillah..we initially didnt expect it to be this soon BUT we r sooo glad for this gift...in ten weeks we r gonna have our second scan to determine everything is all right and the baby's gender..
Anuar and I are already in the midst of choosing baby names..(I have decided on what i like now all i have to do is CONVINCE MY HUSBAND!!)
I do hope that all will turn out well and the baby will be healthy and turn out to be the child that we have always prayed for..insya Allah..
Too bad u guys in Malaysia wont be able to see me pregnant (a part of me am glad for that!! hihi..wont want u guys to see me huge and PREGNANT!!!) :D...though another part of me wishes that u guys are here with me..so we can go shopping together...and most importantly GOSSIP together gether...hehehe
Ok guys..got to go now..will keep u guys updated about what goes on..hoping for soo many things at the moment..pray for us..
Love u all
Sarah
